But
before you tie the knot, here's how to play the (smartly) demanding diva and get
the buzz back into your raunchy routine:
Help
Him Read Your Mind
If
his version of foreplay lasts all but four minutes and yours stretches to 40,
this is the time to tell him what could make you happier. Start by giving him
subtle hints about your soft spots, like the back of your neck or the small of
your back. Once he gets working there, show him how to go about it and give him
a guided tour. Show him how firmly or softly you'd like to be touched, so that a
couple of practice (umm...) sessions later, your guy can almost read what's on
your mind. And don't be shy about getting vocal; if the guy loves you, he'll
only want to make you happier.
Get
Your Act Together
You
dance well together, but your sheet sessions aren't synchronised enough? Is he
forever ready and are you always the late Kate? It's time to get your acts
together - literally. Tell him that he needs to spend more time turning you on.
As for you lucky lady, with a man who springs to your touch, lie back and relax.
Get him to whisper sexy nothings into your ear, run an ice cube down your belly
or work magic with his fingers.
Try
Out New Stuff
You've
not been together long, but sex between you and your man is so predictable, you
could set your clock by it. 'Saturday evening, post 9 pm News, your bedroom;
Sunday afternoon, during the 'F.R.I.E.N.D.S' rerun, his bedroom...' If you've
forgotten the last time you had instant and unplanned action, AND if you still
want this guy despite the calendar cuddling, it's time to add a dash of impulse.
First move away from the bedroom, and very far from the TV. Try variations all
over the house and even places you'd have considered too risqué earlier.
Just make sure you both are comfortable enough. Also, make the passion
instantaneous by hitting play when you feel like it - for example, when you're
just back from work. Surprise him. Sneak into the shower with him for a
post-workout steamy session or wake him up in a way he's never imagined. And
hire a steamy video and watch it a deux. Then wonder aloud how all that stuff
was done. He'll be ready to show you how!
Fight
The Fatigue
Your
man works too hard and when he comes over, he's ready to hit the sack... to
sleep! If work is making your guy hit the stress button, your horny honey act
might make him run. Instead, inject passion back into your romance with some
sexy de-stressors. Treat him gently, cook him a great meal and listen to him
crib - however boring that may sound. Do simple things that would take away his
tension, like giving him a long head massage or a sexy back rub. Have the right
music at hand, something that is mellow enough to put him into the mood.
Warning: There's a chance he'll fall asleep anyway... but hey, he'll wake up
relaxed the next morning and well, there's always another night. Just make sure
he dishes out the same dose of luxe treatment when you hit a rough patch at
work.If not, show him the door.
Figure
Out His Fantasy
Every
guy has a fantasy. Get him to spill the beans and surprise him by living out
his. One spunky babe we know did a striptease for her guy, complete with a pole
dance! Or throw him in the tub and give him the sexiest scrub of his
life. Work out a sexy and can't-go-wrong fantasy of your own. Blindfold him with
a soft silk scarf and tease his soft spots. The sensation would make him go
wild! Get him to do the same to you for the next sheet session. Your lovemaking
will never be the same again!
Get
Him To Talk
One
great way to feel gorgeous during your sheet sessions is to hear wonderful
things about yourself from your man. We're sure he loves you enough to hand out
a murmur or two in between the moans. One good way to get him going is to tell
him how good he's making you feel and how excited you are. He'll probably take
the cue and catch on.
So
go ahead, be vocal about what you desire and be the diva of desire. Your guy
would be more than happy to live up to your demands!
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