The
Exes:
These are demons from your past.
People who've been a part of your life. People you chose to show the door to.
Except that they didn't close the door on their way out because they never
actually left. Like an ex lover, an estranged parent, a friend, a colleague
you've fallen out with - anyone you 'rejected'. They cannot accept the fact that
the relationship is over and continue to keep track of your life in any way they
can. And are obsessing about it! So they follow you around to see who you meet,
hack into your e-mail accounts to keep a check of the people you are in touch
with, intercept your post regularly, etc. Remember 'Fatal Attraction'? The
spurned lover becomes every man's nightmare as she unleashes a storm of violence
on Michael Douglas and his
family.
The
Never-Say-Die Stalkers:
Usually the
thwarted ones - of the opposite sex who believe they have a right on you.
They'll hound you for dates, send you flowers, and call you a hundred times. You
refuse them, they'll ask you again. You ignore them, they'll accelerate the
pursuit. Most of these stalkers are erotomanic. They believe that you are in
love with them and take any reaction from you - even a negative one - as a sign
of encouragement.
They're
confident that some day, you will submit to their love and thus they dedicate
all their time to one project - you. They believe they love you and are
convinced that you do too, or at least owe them your love. After all, their life
revolves around you, it's only fair that you return the favour.
They usually choose someone
of a higher status, probably someone in the limelight, and carry on an one-sided
relationship with them. If you set the cops on their trail, they will take it as
a personal victory. Why? They think, you 'cared' enough and are 'thinking about
them' enough to take these drastic steps. Shah Rukh Khan in 'Darr'and Urmilla in
'Pyar Tune Kya Kiya' strongly believed that the objects of their affections
loved them but were being led astray by their families.
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