'We're women, we're young and we're
happy' is the anthem of the now generation. And quite contrary to what the
opposite sex might think, it does not take diamonds, a swanky car or a
beachhouse to make a woman happy. It's those little things that bring on the
sunshine... a warm hug from her beloved, a heart-to-heart with a pal, losing an
inch from her waist...
Happiness Is
Not A Destination. It Is A Method Of Life

So what makes a woman happy? As sociologist Susan Vishwanathan
from Jawaharlal Nehru University (JNU) points out, "Women who have autonomy and
are free to make their choices are probably happier than men primarily because
those choices have been fought for and won after very recent battles. Women are
happy to be out at work and cope with responsibilities at home and work. I think
they count these as major victories."
Is it that sense of being able
to steer their lives on their chosen tracks that makes them happy? Yes, more
than ever. Preeta Verghese Arora, communications professional, Faculty for
Management Studies, Pune, is clear that, "At the right time in life, I was able
to take a call on what my priorities were. There was the total conviction that I
wanted the best of all the worlds - family, career, relationships and of course,
time for myself as a thinking individual."
Preeta is not the only one
taking a call on what she wants in life. Bangalore's Susan George has reason to
crow as, "I've succeeded since I've managed to get away from Kerala to come and
study in Bangalore. It has been exhilarating." For 25-year-old Delhi journalist
Sanghita Singh, happiness equates with being independent, meeting her deadlines
and at the end of the day, being responsible for herself. Happiness for women,
she believes, also comes from having come to terms with themselves and not
needing any man to feel happy...
And valuing the small things... Like
"When my little daughter sends me an e-mail, or when my dog cuddles up near my
feet at night or when my mother calls to chat," says Radhika Dossa, 29-year-old
ad filmmaker, hotelier and casting director, Pune, or "if I get back home and
find my mom's cooked my favourite 'rajma' or my dad's got me flowers," says
Shruti Chauhan.