For young married couples, this Valentine's Day could be the beginning of a new romance. Shilpi Kakkar-Madan has her pulse on the no-time-for-love scenario

You are Mommy to a six-month-old and you feel like a virgin. Your swollen breasts are like twin geysers, spouting the milk of human kindness during foreplay. And you can't remember when you last caught a late- night movie with your husband.

Your Problems Are Real
You want a tiger in bed. He wants Mata Hari. You both get neither. The spark fizzles. Face it; when you were dating, you could veil grooming habits easily because you were not waking up next to each other. Frets Mayank Malve, 33, ''Watching your wife pluck chin hair, massage hair moisturiser enriched with 83 vitamins into her scalp and stroke three creams on her face before sliding into bed is no turn-on. My patience is at the end of its tether by the time she turns in. I feel I've been waiting forever.''

Maybe you brush your pearlies 10 times each in the hope that he will be asleep when you get into bed. ''He has piled on eight kilos in the four years of our marriage," says 28-year-old fashion designer Vivian Gomes.I'd like my man meticulous and well turned out."

And what when sex takes a backseat? ''Making love always helps me reconnect with my husband. But after two years of marriage, we have yet to take a honeymoon, as his work schedules are chaotic,'' reveals Mann Patel, 23, fitness expert.

Parents of infants quit viewing themselves as beings with sexual needs. ''Where's the time?'' asks Mayuri Kumar, 24, mother ofa three-month-old baby. ''After eight hours of consistent suckling, my nipples just aren't ready to be tantalised... Hormonal upheavals and my expanding shape did not make me feel very sexy when I was pregnant. And once the baby arrived, we've had no time.'

'Feedings, erratic sleep, late night baby wails and constant fussing leave her exhausted. ''We honestly tried to pep up our moments of togetherness,'' reveals artist Ashish Gill, 35. ''But on more than one occasion, our two-year-old awakened and sat up in his cot, peering at us. It's just not happening.''

Even without children, double income often equals infrequent sex. Life changes slowly from fiery I-love-yous to comfortable cuddling. Complacency burrows into the thrill of surprise sex. ''We moved into a new house after marriage. In flowed bills and financial responsibilities. Since then 'recreational' activities have taken a backseat,'' says Shekhar, 29, bank executive.