Self-help really is the best

You love your job, your home, your man, your dog... all in that order. Isn’t it time you expended a little love on yourself? Not the abstract emotion, silly. The other kind. The active, pleasure-me-quick kind.

Men know how to, they can hold on to a steady sexual relationship and yet never ever give up their little date with themselves. And they mean no offence. It’s just their way. Because the advantages are aplenty.

Pleasuring yourself can:
• Teach you a lot about your body
• Release the day’s many tensions
• Let your imagination soar... beyond the wildest Sidney Sheldon
• Help you towards better sex.

And in case you’re single and there is no man on the horizon, it is the safest way to find full tension release. And no, it is not harmful, or sinful. As you go along you will realise that even children know that gentle self pleasuring is beneficial, pleasurable, relaxing and self affirming.

Come on, admit it, you did explore your body as a child. Why stop now?

Getting Down To Pleasure
Thinking sexy is the first step. The next is to lie back and get down to rubbing your clitoris, alternately gently and more vigorously till the friction causes an orgasm; a clitoral orgasm can be very pleasurable, but the big boom is the vaginal orgasm. Be a smart gal and get yourself a vibrator and you’ll always be on your way to personal pyrotechnics.

When you’re close to orgasm, you’ll feel tension gathering in the vaginal area and a build-up of warmth. Keep up the good work... As you climax, the clitoris will become increasingly sensitive, and the orgasm will break out in waves of vaginal contractions. Enjoy the sensation girl, and If you have a hot man at hand, that’s no reason to give up your own handiwork. Gals who are cool with themselves enjoy intercourse even more; they can tell their men where to go, what to do, how hard, how slow... And so, a happy you = a happy state of affairs all around!

The Silent Partner
In today’s open arena of sexual communication, the virbrator plays a role in bed. It’s NOT a dirty word. It’s safer than candlesticks and whatnot, and more efficient, whether you’re alone or with a partner. “I would give my thumbs up to the rabbit,” says M, who prefers to remain unknown. It works on both the vagina and the clitoris and comes in real cool colours. And the dual speeds works wonderfully well for me.

Never Been Touched
In a recent study, an incredible 75 per cent of Indian women said they had never masturbated. That’s what we call letting self pleasuring get out of hand!