Even if you don't want to share your steamy secrets with your friends, you can still get all the answers you need...from Femina

How can I boost my body image for better sex?
Darlings, if you don't find your body sexy, no one can help you! So either make an effort to achieve a desired shape and weight or learn to find stuff you like about your body. It may sound whacked out, but try this: Stand in front of a mirror. And say aloud all the things you like about yourself... eg: Long hair, pretty eyes, soft skin, nice waist, sexy ankles, etc. It really works! Also wear lingerie that accentuates your assets and distracts from your flaws. If you have broad hips but a slim waist and full breasts, wear a baby doll that draws attention to your waist, flares out on the hips and gives a nice peek-a-boo of your cleavage!

2 Will my boyfriend be able to tell that I'm a virgin?
In an intimate relationship, the partner always 'knows' what the other is holding back. Honesty and communication are the best sexual lubricants for lovers. Start out by telling him that you have something important to talk about with him. Ask him whether he's a virgin before you leap into the truth tank and spill the beans about your own lack of sexual experience. If he's a newbie, too, it can be a ground to bond on. If not, enlist him as your guide into the world of sexual loving. Of course, use a reliable form of birth control and protection against STDs.

3 How can I get more comfortable initiating sex?
Initiating sex is like stretching unused muscles - the skill and muscles are there, but it feels awkward and new. Plus, there's that whole thing about girls need to wait for the guy to ask. And that women who are pushy in bed are not usually the ones who get to walk down the aisle. Perhaps you can develop a special 'sign' that indicates your interest, or use private emails, love notes or secret hand signals. That way you don't have to feel as if you are reciting lines from a bad porno flick to be the sexual person you want to be.

4 Where is my G-spot?
Although not all sexologists agree that this area exists in a woman's body, we believe it is there and can be stimulated for supreme pleasure. It is a soft area that is palpable, just about a third of the way up on the front wall of the vagina. It's easiest to find when you're aroused. It pulses slightly when touched with a finger, and rubbing on it can send you orbiting parallel universes! Help your man find it... you know men, they never ask for directions. You might as well show them the route!

5 Why can't I have an orgasm?
The key is to stop focusing on wanting one. Most often, women don't spend enough time on getting aroused. It can take anywhere from 20 to 60 minutes for a woman to reach climax. So, spend more time in foreplay. Also, the foundation for becoming orgasmic is masturbation. Once you learn your own natural patterns for arousing yourself and achieving the release you seek, then you can do a rerun with your sweetie. Use direct and indirect clitoral touching, fantasise and relax into the pleasure you feel. If you are worrying about not getting to the climax, you are literally stopping your own flow.

6 Where is his G-spot?
If he's found yours, you should know his, too. First try the frenulum, the sensitive spot just on the underside of the penis, where the folds of his glans (penile head) come together. It looks like the petals of a flower. This hot spot, when touched, can turn your man into putty. It's a bundle of nerve endings and is super sensitive when he is highly aroused. The second spot is the perineum, the skin around the back of the family jewels. This area is often a center of great pleasure. It's also supposed to help him stay erect longer and stall ejaculation. Rub it gently or hard during high states of arousal. The third is the prostate, but that isn't easy to access, and your man most probably won't like you to go in there.

Tip: Some men prefer a light touch on the booty, some prefer heavy pawing and others tell their lovers to stay away from the family jewels altogether. Learn what works for the two of you, then explore.

7 What can I do to get comfy with my guy's super size?
Yes, a large one can be scary! Well, the average erect penis is between 12 and 14 cm in length and 10 cm around. Just for fun, and perhaps to help put your mind at ease, wind a string or ribbon around his erect penis, then measure it. If his falls within the normal range, he won't feel he belongs in a freak show. Alternatively, if he is bigger than normal, acknowledging his hugeness may help you overcome your guilt about not being able to take him inside you without discomfort. One of the keys to accepting a large penis is being mentally ready. If you are tightening in fear of being hurt, it won't be easy. Instead, try to think of you two fitting together. You may want to use a lubricant like KY Jelly. Breathing can also help, especially if you can breathe together - in and out to match his thrusting. Breathe gently at first, then try to keep your breathing pattern slow and deep.

8 Why do men fall asleep after sex?
Despite the jokes associated with this situation - him snoring, her reaching out for more - most women are anything but amused by this behaviour. Unfortunately, men who fall asleep right after sex are merely giving in to biological forces. At orgasm, both he and you release the hormone oxytocin. It's the same chemical the body releases during breastfeeding, which makes babies sleepy. Why would a grown-up boy be any different? Oxytocin also triggers 'bonding' between mother and infant and may be what makes women want to cuddle after sex. Also, men and women hold their breath while in the throes of lovemaking, in an effort to sustain the tension before a climax. So, next time your honey is about to reach the finale, encourage him to take long, deep breaths. This will lessen his urge to snooze after the Big O.

9 Is there any easy way to know that my moves are going to please him?
You can learn to become a skilled oral lover without having to perform blow jobs, by the way. Many guys enjoy the sheer pleasure of being licked along the shaft or on the highly sensitive ridge around the head, of being teased gently with little bites around the head (be very gentle). Another hot spot where you may want to use your tongue is on the the point where the head meets the shaft on the underside.

10 Is there such a thing as too much sex?
You may be having too much sex if you are getting disinterested, it hurts or you feel no sensations. Also, probably the best sex is when you want it, and if you have sex all the time there is no room for building up the desire to do so.