Little Somethings The special things that make a marriage work may seem to be small day-to-day things, but they definitely go a long way in making the relationship work.
“The most important thing for me,” says Javed, “is that she lets me be me.”
For Prakash, it’s the fact that she cooks for him every morning —“despite the fact that I tell her not to,” he hastens to add! For Narendra, the way to his heart is also through his tum! “She cooks all the dishes I like,” he says simply. Hemen appreciates the fact that Rinku continues to give him cards on special occasions.
The women had a lot more to talk about than food! “I quit working for some time because of a personal crisis, and later, it was Hemen who encouraged me to start doing something again,” says Rinku. Jennifer enjoys being pampered, so each morning Javed has the tea and the newspapers ready when she gets out of bed.
After A Quarrel The occasional quarrel always arises, but is it that easy to resolve? Saying sorry is not so difficult for these couples who pretty much can’t live without talking to each other for too long. “I’m the one who has to do all the talking after a fight as he just keeps it all bottled in,” says Jennifer.
Ditto for Sadhvi, who always has to take the first step, or, as she says, “Varun will just keep quiet for days on end.” While Prakash and Lisa said that they don’t really quarrel much, when they do, it’s Prakash who willingly says sorry first.
Being Together And what happens during quiet times, when just the two of them are alone?
Javed and Jennifer enjoy playing board games, solving crossword puzzles and generally loafing on the streets of Mumbai. “For us, it’s just important that we spend time alone,’’ say Narendra and Natasha.
Ditto for Hemen and Rinku who prefer to just go out alone — whether it’s window-shopping or simply going for a walk.
Prakash and Lisa treasure their free time together on weekends. Prakash says, “Spending time together need not mean going anywhere or doing anything in particular.”
Contrary to popular belief, romance need not be an alien factor after marriage. And as far as these guys are concerned, it seems to be the key binding ingredient in their relationships. Here’s looking at ya!
KEEP THE FEELING ALIVE
* Nothing beats quality time together. * Make up after a spat, and move on. * Sentiments come through in the smallest gestures, not the biggest. * Take pride in each other’s achievements and encourage individual hobbies.
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