Let's make one thing very clear. It doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman... If you've cheated, or are planning to, you're scum. Worse actually. You're the scum that infests and decays existing scum. Are we judging you? Of course we are. 'Cause we believe that nothing (read: situations, an inebriated state, falling 'accidentally' on someone's lips) can compel you to cheat if you don't want to.

Having said that, there are times when you feel attracted to someone other than your man. It's absolutely normal. The important thing is to resist the urge to act on that attraction and ruin a perfectly happy relationship... assuming you have a perfectly happy relationship, that is. So go through these prevention-is-better-than-cure tips and have the courage to say, 'No thanks, I am attached.'

If you bump into an old flame: Resist the urge to go out for a cup of coffee for 'old time's sake' if you feel even a slight tug in your heart that isn't purely sisterly affection. Exchange pleasantries and say goodbye.

If you're on a business trip with a colleague you're a little attracted to: First, casually slip in the fact that you're attached. For eg, you could say, 'I'm looking forward to all the shopping I might get to do in our free time. The last time I was here, my boyfriend/ husband had to physically drag me away from the stores.' Don't get very personal though. Keep your conversation fun yet detached. Resist going to his room or inviting him to yours at the end of the day for that last drink. If he asks, politely decline and tell him you'd like to call your guy before you hit the sack.

If you are having a long distance relationship and are attracted to a new guy: After a while, no matter how strong a relationship is, you need to have a physical presence you can talk to or laugh with, or sit and cuddle with. And that new guy who is showering you with attention while your man is working away in a foreign land is oh-so-tempting. Fair enough. We don't want to be party poopers but if you want to save your relationship, stay away from this new fellow. Before you know it, you'll be sitting in front of the telephone wondering how to tell your guy about the fling you're having. Talk to your guy as much as you possibly can in this time. Tell him you need him. Visit him if you can. Send him mails, letters or call him and talk - lovey-dovey, dirty, mushy, whatever is your mantra. Just find him again.

If you're attracted to someone... just like that: Well, one of many things has happened here. You're bored of your current relationship and the new man promises excitement. You're dissatisfied with the way your relationship is going. You're perfectly happy with your relationship and this is just a mindless infatuation, which will pass. If it's the latter, chill out. Just spend a few excellent evenings with your man and you'll soon get over this new thing. But if it's the other two... it's decision time. Either work on your relationship and push out the new man, or kiss your relationship goodbye and pursue this new interest. Break up first though.
Don't cheat. Never cheat.

And If All Else Fails...
• Wear thick grandma glasses and don't get your eyebrows and upper lips done for two-three months... at least. Think of something to tell your boyfriend. We're here to help but you must do some things on your own.
• Break up with your boyfriend. There you go. Problem solved.
• Leave the country. Go for a long blissful vacation away from the object of your attraction. You might be tempted to have a raging affair with a sexy foreigner, but your immediate problem will be solved.
• Stop using deodorants and perfumes. And then hang out with the other man...a lot.
• Talk about your boyfriend... constantly. So much so that you make not just the other man and everyone around, but yourself, sick as well. Then you'll have to stay in bed and therefore, away from him.
• Every time he comes close to you, sneeze. Loudly. Repeat until desired effect. This works even better if he brings you flowers. Sneeze on the flowers (again very loudly), look at him with watery eyes and say, 'I'm allergic to almost everything!'