Does
your body language and make up scream ‘Get lost jerk’, or does it
croon ‘Come hither baby’?

Okay — you’ve heard this one before — usually in
relation with going for a job interview... Your body gives you away.
Here’s how to get your body language perfected, so that Mr Nice Guy
doesn’t think he’s flunked out with you!
Broadly, there are a few points
you should keep in mind, and use when the opportune moment presents
itself.
A casual touch
— we don’t mean grab him and pull him into a dark corner and have
your way with him. A light touch as he helps you into your chair, or into the
car...
Leaning forward
signifies
that you’re interested in what he’s saying. Just make sure you
actually ARE interested... God forbid you do it when he’s telling you how
he cleaned his car that morning .
Crossing
your legs in a skirt:
(Please practise in front of a full- length mirror
before you try this in public) This attracts his attention to your legs
(hopefully toned and slim!). And if you’re in strappy sandals, even
better. If you have your moves right, by the end of the evening, he’ll
have a leg and foot fetish!
Flutter those
lashes baby...
Masacara is a girl’s best friend. Be lavish, and
flutter away... but don’t overdo it either... he should be able to gaze
into your eyes without eye strain from all the fluttering.
Pouting princess:
Lip
gloss — used well — gives your lips a pout and a sexy shine —
ultra-kissable.
Licking your lips:
Running your tongue lightly over your lips is a very flirty sign — it
signals that you find him ‘yummy’... then again, it could be the
salt from the maragarita!
Holding hands
while you walk:
Don’t reach for his hand as soon as you start
walking. Wait till the conversation turns to a slightly intimate topic. Then
slip your hand into his for a split second. If his fingers tighten around yours
instantly, you know you’ve got something going.
Playing with your hair
—
like twirling a strand gently around your fingers will draw his attention to
your luscious locks and make him wonder what it would be like to run his fingers
through your hair!
Make sure that you have recently washed your hair, and
that it isn’t chock-a-block with gel or stiff with styling spray! Also,
there is a difference between a bit of hairplay, and self-conscious fidgeting
with your hair.
Smile!
This is the
ultimate man slayer. A dazzling 100-watt smile will let him know he’s
being witty, that you think he’s nice and that you’re happy to be
with him. It could also mean that his fly is unzipped...
Says
Counsellor Sushma Sharma, “Body language moves like these very clealy
state that you are interested in the person; that you want to explore the
chemistry between the two of you.”
COMMON
SCENARIOS
Scene
1: On a barstool
Rule: If you’re
in a skirt, make sure your legs are elegantly crossed!
Now,
assuming the guy is cool, and he revvs your engines, you want to come across as
being interested, and a bit flirty. The way you sit will make all the
difference. Casually lean at an angle against the bar.
Tilt your face
upwards which, with his height advantage (we assume he’s not one of the
Seven Dwarfs), resembles a pose of admiration. Even if you are at a place where
the bartender knows what you drink (and how much!), let him do the
ordering.
The advantage of this
setting:
When the music gets too loud, deliberately speak in a slightly
lower tone (he needn’t know that when you raise your voice, they can hear
you in the high Himalayas!). Since he won’t be able to hear, he’ll
lean forward, for you to whisper in his ear. At that stage, you could be telling
him that the price of fish has gone up, but the intimacy of having you whisper
in his ear will get his pulse pounding!
Do
not:
Lean forward too far to show your interest: ‘Woman loses
balance, falls off bar-stool’ is not the headline you want to leave him
with.
Scene 2: At A
Restaurant